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Unveiling 12 Secret Wishes Grooms Have This Christmas & The New Year (That Will Transform Your Wedding & Marriage!)

Unveiling 12 Secret Wishes Grooms Have This Christmas & The New Year (That Will Transform Your Wedding & Marriage!)

When you think about weddings, you think about brides in their beautiful wedding gowns and dreaming about floral decorations. While there’s truth in that, weddings are also a big day for grooms! They might focus on different things. So pay attention brides, here are the 12 secret Wishes Grooms Have This Christmas & The New Year! Knowing them would transform your wedding – and more importantly, it would help your marriage.


Wishes Grooms Have This Christmas & The New Year – #1 Hear Him Out First!

Usually, the grooms are more concerned about wedding photography! So it is important to hear him out on his wedding photography ideas or concerns, even if you have your own grand ideas.

In the process, you would learn that you might have very different expectations of “good wedding photography.” One of you could be thinking of staged shots that play with strong contrast and lighting, while the other might prefer shots that capture moments more naturally.

Most importantly, discussing and hearing your groom out also shows him respect – which is one way to love your husband! 😉

Wishes Grooms Have This Christmas & The New Year – #5 Focus On His Groom Suit

You are all excited to find your perfect wedding gown. With all the anticipation rushing through your veins, you probably shown him images of wedding dresses and coloured bridal gowns. He might have even joined you at your wedding gown fittings!

Each time you twirl in your wedding gown, he patiently listens to you talk about the neckline and sequins and train (that he may be unfamiliar with but still!).

Now, it’s your turn to show him some love!

Help him to look good in his suit by going through the selection with him as well! On your wedding day, he’s going to be standing before his parents, relatives he only meets during Chinese New Year, army buddies, childhood friends and work colleagues. It’s natural that he’d want to look good. It’s his big day too!

So don’t dismiss him if he is all concerned about his suit. This shows he cares about how he looks beside you too!

Wishes Grooms Have This Christmas & The New Year – #3 Choose Wedding Bands Together!

Traditionally, grooms are wholly responsible for getting the wedding bands.

But, wedding bands symbolises the union between you and your groom. So naturally, he would want you to be a part of the process to select the wedding bands. After all, it is a mutual decision to be married for life!

So ladies, do your grooms a favour! Let them know that you’d love to choose your wedding bands together.

Wishes Grooms Have This Christmas & The New Year – #4 Discuss On Wedding Photography Concepts

Wedding photography is one of the things when it comes to weddings. Afterall, the wedding photography captures all the meaningful moments and allows you to reminiscence it for your entire lifetime!

Usually, the grooms are more concerned about wedding photography! So it is important to hear him out on his wedding photography ideas or concerns, even if you have your own grand ideas.

In the process, you would learn that you might have very different expectations of “good wedding photography.” One of you could be thinking of staged shots that play with strong contrast and lighting, while the other might prefer shots that capture moments more naturally.

Most importantly, discussing and hearing your groom out also shows him respect – which is one way to love your husband! 😉

Wishes Grooms Have This Christmas & The New Year – #6 Bond With His Mum

She’s going to be your mother-in-law! And no matter how much he thinks his mother nags, she’s his mother – the one who raised him. It’s going to be valuable to both him and yourself if you invested time to build a positive relationship with her.

Take the time to bring her out and if you want to, ask her for suggestions or advice on your wedding. She might impart words of wisdom to help pave your wedding planning!

Wishes Grooms Have This Christmas & The New Year – #7 That He Is Incredibly Excited To Call You His Wife!

When you were born into your family, you might have been given siblings and parents. They play specific roles in our lives. When you get married, you take on new roles as husband and wife.

Your role was a wife is to build up, support and help him succeed. It’s not to reprimand, criticise, judge, question, play the devil’s advocate, mock… you’re there to stand by him. Throughout the wedding planning and into your marriage, that’s the role he wants to see you in…simply because he knows you are what he wants!

So at any point of time when you question yourself (through the wedding stress), always remember that he is all excited to have you as his wife, warts and all.

Wishes Grooms Have This Christmas & The New Year – #8 To Support Him

You probably already know how tiring wedding planning and preparation can be. You might be exhausted from putting everything into one plan. But don’t forget that your groom is going through the same thing as you are!

During these times of exhaustion and tension, it is important to take the time to listen to his concerns. One common example would be how our both parents have different expectations when it comes to the wedding ceremony or the dishes served at the wedding.

Instead of questioning him, respectfully ask him to explain his thoughts. Instead of making him feel you are working against him, respectfully ask for his opinions. This way, you are working to go towards one another instead of apart.  Remember that marriage is a partnership and that starts during wedding planning.

Wishes Grooms Have This Christmas & The New Year – #9 Go On A Date From Time To Time

One of the best tips you can get about wedding planning is to continue dating! The relationship doesn’t – and shouldn’t, end with wedding planning. Anyway, it’s the day after the wedding that matters.

In order to continue cultivating the intimacy, date your husband. Recall what you enjoyed doing as a couple and intentionally add that into your schedule. Your groom would definitely appreciate the time out from wedding planning and the companionship while doing shared activities.

Wishes Grooms Have This Christmas & The New Year – #10 Accept Imperfections

Brides tend to be the one researching, planning and looking into the details of the wedding planning. That stresses you out – and also him! The stress comes from two fronts. First, he’s worried about you. Second, he’s concerned about how you might feel when things go less than perfectly on wedding day (and there are potential wedding disasters that you might have overlooked!).

Remember that your special day is made perfect by the love being shared and celebrated. It’s not going to be logistically perfect because you’re only human! Plus, there are so many moving factors during that day itself.

You don’t want to break down on wedding day because of the a technical glitch in your wedding photo montage. Instead, you’d want to enjoy your actual day. Same for him! As you’re putting together this special day of yours, know that he thinks it’s special because of you. So, he would love for you to take a deep breath and simply enjoy your time with him.

Wishes Grooms Have This Christmas & The New Year – #11 Know That He’s Under Pressure Too

Wedding planning can be overwhelming. You might be going crazy trying to confirm your bridal bouquet design or finalise your wedding gown. Each time you ask him for his opinions, he gives you the standard: “They’re both nice.” It drives you mad! At times, you might even think he’s not being supportive. But keep this in mind bride: “Wedding planning doesn’t have to turn your life upside down”.

Bear in mind that he’s going through as much pressure as you. He might be thinking about his wedding vows, wondering if the words would speak into your heart. He might also be triple checking in his mind if he’s got the marriage license, gatecrash ang baos and the names of all your relatives right.

Know that he’s going to be the man of the household, and he wants to set your marriage off on the right foot. He wants every moment in your wedding to be memorable – especially for you. So the next time he gives you a slipshod answer regarding the flower decoration or the table styling, know that he has other things weighing on his mind.

Wishes Grooms Have This Christmas & The New Year – #12 To Remember That Marriage Involves You And Him

A wedding is huge! There are lots of moving factors to consider – and between your families, you’d be managing the expectations of many excited family members. In these times, we all make mistakes that cause wedding planning to be more stressful than it needs to be.

The marriage involves you and him. So work together as a team instead of being loggerheads! After all, the wedding is a celebration of a union – that’s the union of both you and your husband-to-be. This is possibly the best time to be fully open with each other.

This includes making decisions for certain things like preferred religious practices (if any), customary traditions and wedding vows. Even logistical items such as your wedding guests invite list and budget require you both to be on the same page. Throughout your wedding planning, it’s important to respect one another’s opinions and share one another’s load.

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Naturally, both the brides and grooms have their secret stash of wishes they want to fulfil during the wedding preparation. The key to making them come true is respecting that shared honesty with each other.

This habit of being honest with how you’re thinking and feeling is important in marriage as well! A huge challenge that couples face is miscommunication. Fighting a cold war, being passive aggressive or making sarcastic remarks can lead to miscommunication. Your wedding planning is a good platform to sharpen those communication skills!

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